17-Year-Old Chooses to Be With the Dad Who Raised Him Instead of His Biological Father, Proving Loyalty to the Man Who Raised Him Over the Courtesan Who Destroyed His Family

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Nov 25, 2024 2:00 PM EST

Parenting is more than just a genetic connection. 

This teenage boy was faced with a choice on his 17th birthday, choosing to move in with his mom and his biological father or stick around and stay loyal to the man who raised him. And in this story, his real dad was more than just a relative, he was the father figure who stepped up. 

As many adoptive parents would agree, becoming a parent is less about your DNA match with a child and more about your relationship with their spirit. Parents must choose their offspring, caring for them and nurturing their lives as they grow and become adults. A person's biological component, while important to a kid's future, is far more benign than having a present adult who supports them, loves them, and backs them up. So when the teenage boy in this next story was faced with a parental dilemma, he chose the parent who never left him or let him down, regardless of their lack of genetic ties. 

Keep scrolling to read the story of a kid whose loyalty was well-placed as he chose his true dad over the man who destroyed his family. 

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    AITA for telling my mom and biological father I will always pick my dad over my bio father because my dad's my real dad?
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    When I (17M) was 7 and my siblings were 9 and 10 we found out our mom was cheating on our dad. She wanted to leave dad and told him none of us were his kids. She told us too. She said the guy she was leaving to be with was our
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    "real dad" and we should all be a family. Dad said we were his kids and we'd do DNA but it didn't change how he felt about us. My siblings got lucky and dad was their bio dad. But the other guy was mine, which really fed me up because I hated knowing I was
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    connected to this random dude and mom got what she wanted by having at least one of us be this guys kid. I know she'd have preferred all of us but even just me seemed to make her SO happy. Dad was on my birth certificate
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    and fought to have 50-50 custody of me like he had of my siblings. I think my siblings being his worked in our favor with the judge deciding on this "unusual custody battle" and dad sharing custody of all three of us. My mom and "Vince" (what I'll call bio) fought
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    the decision and they got a guardian ad-litem involved and someone from CPS or something. The decision was the same. It was agreed the best outcome for me by the new people involved. Mom and Vince did everything to
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    try and win me over to Vince and they tried with my siblings too but mostly me since Vince didn't really care about my siblings since they weren't his bio kids. None of us wanted to be with them but we had no choice. We didn't make it pleasant for them and I never tried
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    to accept Vince as my dad. That was something I was told by mom I should do but I always replied I have a dad and Vince would never be him. I never choose Vince over my dad even though Vince has tried very hard to create an "our thing" with me. But I was clear I
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    was not giving him a chance. It's a fight that never ended. I tried to use that a year ago to get a judge to agree to let me stay with dad but he ruled I have to go until I'm 18 or dad can face fines/losing custody. I might stop going a month before I turn 18 since they
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    won't make it before a judge before then but I also might keep going for dad's sake, because I don't want him punished for this, more than he already was with his wife cheating and finding out one of his kids wasn't his biologically.
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    Mom and Vince brought it up again last week. Vince had wanted me to go on this fishing weekend with him and I didn't go. He got upset and mom was upset for him. They said I'd go for dad and I said yeah. Then they said I pick dad over Vince. I said yes. They
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    complained and I said I always will because he's my real dad, not Vince. I said Vince will never be my dad. I told them they can't change how I feel. I said they blew up my life when they made me biologically not my dads and I
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    would never forgive. I also said I'm not a toy Vince can take out once he wants to. They tried to lecture me about it but I walked away from them and I kept walking away from them when they were saying how I'm being.
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    DuePromotion287 ΝΤΑ You are handling this appropriately and very maturely. In no ways are you TAH.
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    aleciahayden OP's mom and Vince are trying to guilt-trip him into a relationship he don't want. His loyalty to his dad is completely justified, given how much he's done for him.
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    Curious-One4595 NTA and congrats on your maturity. So, your mom hung around in marriage to your dad for eleven years while carrying on with Vince. Vince knew he might be the father of 1-3 kids but did nothing to develop a relationship or even find out for sure for a decade.
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    Your real dad is awesome and it probably makes him very glad that you have become like him in good ways through his love and parenting and you and he are connected in every meaningful way that matters to parent and child.
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    Mijit-1 Idk how these idiots can think this way. Ops dad raised him for 17 years and they think he'll just suddenly switch to seeing Vince as his dad just because he's ops bio dad? Utter morons. Op is handling this great
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    TheLastAirBison Honestly it's like an embarrassing role reversal. The adults are acting like immature, whiny children and the teenager is acting like a ♥ mature adult.
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